My dear Yogis and Yoginis,
These definitions and meanings I found in the net
about trust:
‘Belief that someone or something is reliable, good, honest, effective, etc. …
Trust, assurance, confidence imply a feeling of security. trust implies instinctive unquestioning belief in and reliance upon something, …’
about control:
‘In psychology, control is a person’s ability or perception of their
ability to affect themselves, others, their conditions, their
environment or some other circumstance.’
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I don’t know about you, but I find it more and more difficult to trust humanity and feel the circle of trustworthy people has been shrinking in my life. At the same time a life without trust brings so much
unsettling feelings with.
So much in this world is about trying to control or being controlled. Trust is becoming foreign. As you know only if we are aware of things, we can change them.
Here is a little collection of different inspirational quotes I would like to share with you.
“Life without trust is a life in turmoil.”
M. K. Soni
“Trust is what we do each day, when we get out of our bed and put our clothes on. It is the thing that makes it possible for us to keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Iyanla Vanzant, Trust: Mastering the Four Essential Trusts
“Without self-trust, we can never become wise because we will
continue to look outside ourselves for the answer.
M. J. Ryan, Trusting Yourself
“Trust can be gained or lost in the small things as well as in the big
areas of life.”
Tony DiLorenzo, The Trust Factor
As some of you know the blogs are mostly about things that occupy my mind at that particular time. I would like to share with you a little life story of mine.
I grew up in a rather strict household. Leaving Germany in my late teens I thought I left quite a bit of it behind me. Till recently when I discovered that the german saying “trust is good, but control is better” was pretty much ingrained in me.
I have been struggling with my young rescued dog for quite some time, trying to getting her under control especially when it comes to our walks. Because of her being a hunter, I haven’t been able to let her of the leash ever. I managed to teach her to not pull that much
anymore while on the leash and lately I have been doing exercises with her to develop a stronger bond between us.
I didn’t trust her in almost all areas – other dogs, people, walking on the leash; it was exhausting and made me feel sad, helpless, stuck and at moments having anxiety.
Two days ago on my walk with her I was thinking, I want her to trust me, so I need to start to trust her as well.
And just like you probably wouldn’t let your kids take your car on a vacation trip right after receiving their license, I decided to let her off the leash only for a short period in an area with the least amount of distraction. She stayed close by and came back to me at times to get a treat. I hardly can put it into words what I felt – such a heartwarming and rewarding experience!
To see a glimpse of what our “companionship” could be like brought such joy and hope back to me. Today she was more than half of the walk without the leash, I played the edge as well and once won, once lost, but still in the end I had her back by my side. I know that there will be times where I will be there waiting or looking for her, but something inside me shifted after feeling a spark of freedom for the both of us.
Now I am looking at trust like a muscle that needs to be trained. There will be moments where you see you were not strong enough to do a certain thing yet, but with great awareness, joy, patience and a light heart you will built a strong lasting muscle.
I think it is time to transfer this experience to other areas in my life.
Like they say, you always get the dog/animal you need to grow in your life. Her first lessons were about setting boundaries and becoming a stronger person and she was not holding back to teach me already the next lesson about trust and control 🙂
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Of course we are all different. Are you more trusting or controlling? Are you overly trusting or controlling? Or are you lacking trust or control? I believe to find a balance in all of this takes a lot of
conscious awareness and the willingness to inquire within.
How does that affect our yoga practice on the mat?
We control our movements to our best of knowledge, but then there is the time to trust the body and body memory, enjoying the ride.
Sensing, feeling, becoming aware will lead our practice from control to trust to freedom inside and out.
Monday 07.11.
Balance Trust & Control
Continues Flow
Wednesday 09.11.
Trust
Blind Flow
Thursday 10.11.
Open Theme
Yogis Choice
Friday 11.11.
Transition & Balance
Flow
Thank you for your trust in me – see you on the mat!
Love,
Nicole